Guilty as charged. It’s so hard to unlearn something that is generally seen as a good thing — giving. But I’m still learning that takers will take, take, take…and then take some more. My efforts are almost never matched. And so, I’m trying to pull back just a bit…to wait and see if the giving is only one-sided…if the love only flows out, never in.
Yes…usually an exercise in futility. I’ve learned that a person will only change because they want to…no amount of love can change someone if they aren’t ready and willingly to do so.
Why do you think we fall into such relationships or why do we continue? 🤔
Because we yearn for that person to validate us
Or we yearned for validation from someone and we try to find that person in the person who's with us
And then the cycle continues each time until we break its hold on us
True
Damn, this teleports me back to many many years ago. Incredible work.
i'm experiencing this exact thing right now. i wish i was strong enough to close the door.
It really depends on the situation and how much more you’re willing to invest in that relationship
Guilty as charged. It’s so hard to unlearn something that is generally seen as a good thing — giving. But I’m still learning that takers will take, take, take…and then take some more. My efforts are almost never matched. And so, I’m trying to pull back just a bit…to wait and see if the giving is only one-sided…if the love only flows out, never in.
But yet we still continue to love hoping for the signs of change to spark them on the other end
Yes…usually an exercise in futility. I’ve learned that a person will only change because they want to…no amount of love can change someone if they aren’t ready and willingly to do so.
Maybe I’ll write a post about it seems like an exercise in futility but maybe it’s not
Ok. It mine was 10 years of loving, loving, loving…wishing and waiting. Only to be finally and formally rejected. We shared a place for 8 years.
Sign .I'll have a post coming for you soon :)
I can relate. The gift of living too much. A gift that’s not for the faint of heart. Thanks for sharing.
I remember some quote that said love feels much like hurting
I’ve been living with that from a family member my whole life
Not anymore. I’ll be adding on some posts about it and definitely more poetry. I do a lot of venting here in my healing process. Welcome!